Dating in the middle ages
Women, on the other hand, are conditioned to be on guard always lest they be labeled as a slut. I value the connection and the relationship, short-lived though it may be.
I’m just as happy gaining a friend or an evening of companionship as almost anything else. Express your feelings and don’t apologize for having them.
By definition, I’m pretty much getting into that “middle-aged” category. When faced with the potential for possible vulnerability, we deflect, joke and deny. Our culture, while viewing sex in puritanical ways, has itself become hyper-sexualized.
At some point, I turned into the adult in the room. We will typically do almost anything to avoid confronting the emotions we’ve so carefully locked into the darkest recesses of our soul. And sometimes we’re drunk or sober, and the decision is just fine. It’s not OK to sexually assault your partner, and it’s not OK to cajole your partner into sex he or she doesn’t want. Kids are learning about the birds and the bees from Pornhub.
I’m much more comfortable around women than I am men.
At this stage of my life, I require authenticity in any relationship I have.Troubadours, medieval singers who went from town to town, singing love songs, often represented this idea of courtly love, with an undercurrent of sexuality.An example is a Spanish song about a young woman visiting a nearby stream: For anyone serious about Christian morality, sex was not an option.Going into a date expecting nothing more than a few laughs and a meal allows me the freedom to be myself and to choose to be authentic. Guys, that also means don’t be a zit on the ass cheek of humanity. Sometimes my authentic self isn’t at all what a woman is looking for, and sometimes she’s not what I’m out shopping for. Expressing your feelings still requires respect for the other person.